Thursday, September 18, 2008

Prayers needed....

*****UPDATE******
Thank you for your prayers!!! Everything came back normal on Sophie's screenings. As you thank God for sparing Sophie and us any more steps down this road, please lift up the families that have more steps to take. Pray for those babies who may languish in an orphanage because no one notices symptoms, and for the families like yours and mine who were trying to nourish their child with good quality formula only to find out greed of a stranger along the way may have detrimental effects.
And thanks to Him, too, that someone stepped forward before more harm was done.

(and please notice Sarah's birthday blog below!)


I don't have much time to post or link but if you check out CNN's homepage you will see a story about baby formula in China being contaminated with melamine.
They are saying the contamination was from January '08 to August of '08. We received Sophie on January 21st. Our agency was concerned enough to send out a letter asking that any babies adopted from January to August be screened immediately.
We know that the brand most affected in the recall is the brand that Sophie had for 2 months. We can not be sure if her's was from a pre- or post- contaminated batch though.
At best, she had no exposure. At worst, 2 months of pretty heavy exposure.

The effects of the poisoning are just beginning to appear in babies who were exposed. From skin and eye irritation, to kidney stones, to acute renal failure.
As of this morning, 4 babies had died. Nearing 6200 showing signs of exposure. These are numbers in China. I've not heard of any children newly adopted showing signs or at least being reported.

We are taking Sophie in today for several screenings. Please pray. Pray for ease of testing, discernment among the doctors, detection of the slightest thing...for my peace...most of all for the health of every organ in Sophie's precious body.

I will update when I know more.

Saturday, September 13, 2008

The day she's waited at least 200 days for.....




It was the anticipated party of the year. Sarah was turning five!!! We've been counting down the days since...well, you mom's know...what seemed like, forever.
This year is Sarah's "simple" year. Every other year they can have a "real party" at Pump It Up or whatever. On the other years I'm allowing them to have 1 special friend over for dinner and cake. No hoopla that has to be coordinated and planned, and in my case, agonized over. I do this for a lot of reasons. Cost is one. Ease is another. But I never want them to think that what makes them or their birthday special is the party, the size of it, how many show up or any of that. I want them to know that "they" are what is special about the day, that family will always celebrate them, and that if they have at least 1 person to call "good friend" they are blessed beyond measure.
Sarah had John David over. They've known each other since the day Sarah came home. And they adore each other.
I decorated the kitchen with balloons (still a favorite of Sarah's) and "Happy Birthday" banners. And a table cloth. That was the impressive part to Sarah, no no, not all the decorations...the table cloth. heehee so funny.
A couple of Hello Kitty gift wrapped packages and that was it! She was thrilled.
I told Glen to go buy a big mylar balloon on his way home....that thrilled her.
And then John David arrived and her entire day was complete. During the day she had friends and family call to wish her a happy birthday (she LOVED being sung to!) and she was just on top of the world. We sent the day out with a bang by having a "sleep over with mommy". I promised not to go check on Sophie unless she got really really sick. And that we could eat in the bed. She held me to both. Even though we were full of pizza and cake and ice cream...she insisted that I keep my promise of eating in bed. So we closed the night with some pretzels. And now....my first born is...five.

5 years ago a baby was born with a name I will never know. She gazed into the eyes of someone she will never know. And days later, would become a memory to one family and loved by those who will call her Fu Li Ji. For the next year, while being prayed for by us, she became "friend" to Fu Li Rui and Fu Li Ning. They would learn much together that only they will ever really know. I'm certain they shared smiles, touches, etc. And as mysteriously as their lives came together, their time together ended. They shared one last long bus ride across Hunan in the arms of nannies and certainly there was a feeling of undeniable change in the air. And I wonder if they all heard the cheers of excitement when they walked passed the bus of future parents. I wonder if anything inside them knew "heyyyyyy, cool, they're looking at me!" And I struggle to explain that as parents we KNEW which child was ours...we had seen only 2 pictures of her from months earlier...but my eyes locked immediately on "my baby". And I felt heaven smile. And time froze. Everything about that moment etched in my mind. The weather, the smell, the sounds, the intense feeling of love for the moment. Minutes later in the chaos of the meeting room, Fu Li Ji would become Sarah. She said goodbyes she will never remember. But I will never forget. I saw nannies who loved 8 precious girls....and who will always have the memories of Fu Li Ji's first year in their heart. I have never, for one moment, regretted that Sarah came home "so late" (at 14 months). I believed that God was in control and I prayed that China would be a part of her. I wanted her to leave knowing she was loved in her motherland. I want her to have compassion for whatever situation brought her to each stop in her journey so far. I pray she is always able to rise above adversity and accept that nothing in life is really ours. That having "stuff" or a "nice life" isn't what's important. Knowing that God carried you when it seemed you were all alone...that something beautiful can come from something difficult...that the best present in life has already been given to us...and we can "open" it every single day. Who she is, is God's gift to her. What she becomes is her gift to God.

So who is this little 5 yr old chili pepper??
She's 41" tall and a spry 35.5 lbs. And is as spicey as they come! (Hunan is known for their spicey food and so they believe the personalities of the people are spicey too)
She loves to be hugged and cuddled with. She loves people and if you've ever been spotted by Sarah, you know, she makes you feel like the biggest star in the world!
She'll try anything once and, so far, doesn't like to say she doesn't like it.
She's stubborn. In general she seems to have ants in her pants, but try to punish her and she'll sit still on a hard chair for 2 hours just to "show you".
She loves reading and is so pumped to be able to read books! Not to be confused with the kind of girl who can be found curled up with a good book somewhere. No, not yet any way.
I'm still waiting to figure out what in math is hard to her. I promise I think they covered all this kindergarten stuff when she was 1 in China!
As stubborn as she is, she still says I'm her bestfriend. And I think I'm safe in saying she would spend every waking moment with me. :) And I'm glad. Although, admittedly, I need a break to be thankful for it sometimes.
She adores "Max and Ruby".
She adores her sister....but isn't all that crazy about sharing with her. At all.
Curious George is her favorite book. Any Curious George.
She's very much a "where ever I lay my hat" kind of girl. Ask her what her favorite anything is, and she'll tell you the last thing she had, read, watched, whatever. She loves everything and nothing all at the same time.
She's adorable and perfect and I am so thrilled to spend time with her as mommy, teacher, and buddy.

Sunday, September 07, 2008

Memories....

I've been having a lot of vivid memories the last week or so. I guess mostly because I'm cleaning out toys that Sophie has *gasp* outgrown.
Even as I write this I'm watching Sophie sit perfectly still watching The Sound of Music. Sarah was this age (16 mos next week!) when I introduced her to the beauty of Austria, the voice of Julie Andrews, the thrill of dancing in grass, and the fun of singing and dancing together. Sophie is more of and imitator than Sarah was so the singing and dancing is too cute...but they both share my strange captivation to the movie. It's been nice to have it out again.

Tuesday, September 02, 2008

Life in the fast lane....

Oh these girls. Man oh man!
I have no idea where time goes, but it speeds by!

I think I have decided that, to my horror, Sarah is my "easy one". Sophie is such the adventure seeker...has a bizzare need to put everything in her mouth...has started throwing her head against whatever is there when things don't go her way...
The latter is what worries me. Sometimes it's when she's mad, those I can somewhat predict and wisk her into a safe place to do what she's going to do. But sometimes she's just having so much fun she throws herself back in pure delight. Today that delight came in the bathtub. Just when I think she's getting the hang of keeping herself alive in a hard tub with water...she kicks back! I swear I'm afraid of finding out she has a cracked skull in 39 places! Pray that she decides the pain of hitting her head on something isn't worth the point she's trying to make.
She is full of delight too. The way she asks you to go for a "duck" while grabbing your finger and pulling you up. (duck = walk) The way she calls roll every morning from her bedroom until everyone is accounted for. If Glen gets her up, the first thing you hear is "mama, mama" then "rah rah" (that's what she calls sarah), then "dattt" (that's ali, our cat) and then the dog. She uses her sign language for them with is so cute to me.
Or there is her latest discovery that if you pat the floor next to you someone will come and sit where you are patting. She finds this particularly funny. And when you do the same to her to change her diaper...she wiggles her way to the exact spot you need her.
Music and dance! 2 of her favorite things in her little world. Absolute delight.
"puppy" is her new attachment. It's a rather large, yummy soft stuffed dog. She loves Puppy! Never ever take puppy from her or you will see heartbreaking waterworks.

Then there is my "easy one"....let's just say her 5th birthday can not come fast enough! 4.5 was a rough 6 months. But I'm starting to see my sweet sarah again. We are in day 2 of homeschool and it's gone pretty well considering we are doing everything new, on a new schedule, with unknown distractions around every corner. But every day she tells me that she is so glad she has the best teacher ever and thanks me for teaching her. awwwwww.
And I really have loved teaching her. As we find our groove I think it's only going to get better.
She starts Ballet Magnificat on Monday. We're both excited about that. And tomorrow night she is going to a trial class of Tai Kwan Do because she had so much fun there at a birthday party. And she has Chinese school once a month. and a kindergarten co-op group once a week. I don't expect all of these things to last forever, but I guess this is the time to get her feet wet.

Well, my Ambien has kicked in. I'll try to post pics tomorrow while Sarah does her work.